If you haven’t heard it’s 2022. And if you are over hearing about how you should goal plan etc. I can empathize. I love goal setting, however I am choosing to use the word focus vs. goals.
Some choose to use the word intention. What do you use? It doesn’t matter as long as you do something, right?
But how do you handle your emotions and mindset when you don’t continue to work on your goals?
You “fall off the wagon” —sort to speak. Or when you “go for the goal” and it doesn’t work out.
Thinking back…
I had a lot of goals for 2019. A “Plan A” and a “Plan B.”. The B plan, to be honest, was a big stretch. The challenge with my B plan was that it was created after listening to others in my space and aiming to get there fast. In my heart, I knew it wasn’t feasible, life just doesn’t work like that. My Plan A was achievable and deserves to be celebrated.
In 2019, I started using social media, hosted an in-person event, spoke at other people’s events, started two podcasts— The Good Karma Success Coach and Crush It In Sales, and created an in-person meetup group called Good Vibes.
My goal was to start connecting to help others in a bigger way than just one on one coaching and applying learnings to take my business to the next level. The B plan was to be like Tony Robbins helping people all over the world. I am exaggerating a bit, but you get the point.
Then 2020 kicks off and I didn’t get chosen for a speaking event. My heart was set on that gig. Wow! I was crushed beyond words. I received feedback and it came down to how the event was being curated vs. my presentation, but it still stung. Hence, I edited that speaking gig as a goal for 2020 because it wasn’t going to happen.
So, how do you keep going when things don’t work out as planned?
Here are Five Self-Help Tips to Persist Through Failure:
- I know it sounds cliché, but you must change your mind to focus on the positives and keep going through them. Changing your mindset may take a bit of time depending on where you are at, but you can push through.
- Call a positive friend or a coach to help with the above tip, if you need help. Make sure the friend is supportive. Explain what you need help on so they can help focus your mind on positives. You are not alone in this journey and I can bet you that everyone had gone through something that didn’t work out as they had planned or envisioned.
- Have a big list— dream big!!! of other goals so you can start to focus on something else immediately. My list is HUGE, so I was able to start something else right away.
- Keep your list general, so you are moving forward, but if the exact goal doesn’t happen you won’t feel so defeated. I learned this after a tough month of pushing hard towards goals and they didn’t happen exactly as I had hoped. However, I had still made strides of forward movement that needed to be celebrated.
- Failures are good! Yes, you may think I’m crazy, but failures are good. You always can learn from them and if you didn’t go for something (the Yoda in me is not a fan of the word “try”) you would never move forward. Bottom line- celebrate that you did something! So many people don’t do anything; hence you need to celebrate!
I love this saying I saw on Pinterest (Yes, I am on Pinterest now too! What is happening to me?)
12 New Chapters
365 New Chances
Keep going!
I know you can do it!
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